Who Do You Think You Are?

The dream has been inside of you for years, and you want it so bad; yet those little voices inside your head say:

  • Who do you think you are?
  • You’ll never do this.
  • No one will ever pay you for your brilliance.
  • No one will believe you.
  • You’ll be a failure.
  • You don’t deserve to be a success.
  • You’re too stupid to be a success.

And I’m sure you can add to this list.We believe these messages because we’ve heard them for so long. Every time we try to get ahead, the little voice comes out in full force and stops us. We become a victim. We let negativity control us and don’t know how to get out of it.We start to blame others. It’s my parent’s fault I’m like this. It’s the teachers’ fault because they didn’t help me. It’s my spouse’s fault because he/she doesn’t encourage me.

Stop blaming others.

It’s your life, and you’re in total control.

If you want to make a permanent change, stop focusing on the size of your problems and start focusing on the size of you!

~ T. Harv Eker,
“Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: Mastering the Inner Game of Wealth”

Not everyone understands what you need. They have expectations of who you should be.

When you were growing up, your parents wanted you to be an accountant, or doctor, or lawyer, and you had dreams of becoming an artist, or chef, or teacher. They forced you to go to school and quashed your dream.

Did you feel as if you had no hope because you had to be what your parents wanted you to be, whatever that was? Now, you go through life miserable in a job that’s not fulfilling.

What if you bought some paints and a canvas and started painting? Started hanging around with chefs? Began to tutor a child?

What if you had the mindset to become the person you always wanted to be?

You have to resist what others want and expect of you and feel the joy of accomplishing what you want. You must stop living your life for others.

If you live your life for others, then who are you? You become what they want you to become, not what you want to be. You have to live your life for yourself.

You need to be bold and brave. Stand up for yourself. Keep your eye on the goal. When those voices pop into your head, say, “Thanks for visiting me. I heard you, and I choose not to believe you. Now, shut up!”

You see, there are ways to quiet those voices and get into the mindset to become what you want. It’s up to you. It’s not easy, yet you can do it. Be strong. Make that dream come true.

This blog post is an excerpt from Arlene Krantz’s book, “The Business Within You.” You can request a free chapter or you can purchase the book.